Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to meet women besides bars and on the
internet. I am in my early 30's and want to meet quality women, I was wondering
if there are any spots or places singles meet. Thanks
COMMENT 249732
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2012-01-18 02:19 PM |
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Drive down to LA. There are only newly weds and nearly deads here in SB.
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COMMENT 249733
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2012-01-18 02:20 PM |
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To be completely honest, most of the local singles scene such as the Young Professionals, etc are straight up meat markets (look at some of John Dickson's facebook shots if you want to be turned off). I'd suggest something a bit more wholesome such as a Sierra Club hike, church event or just asking your friends for introductions.
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COMMENT 249734
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2012-01-18 02:21 PM |
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safeway salad bar, marina district sf.
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COMMENT 249735
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2012-01-18 02:22 PM |
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Kickball League, Volleyball League, running clubs (if you run), and church are my suggestions.
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COMMENT 249743
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2012-01-18 02:33 PM |
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Are you male or female? It might make a difference. I'd suggest meet up with a group that does something you are interested in, like hiking, biking, etc.
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COMMENT 249745
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2012-01-18 02:34 PM |
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Depends. Are you male or female?
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COMMENT 249749
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2012-01-18 02:44 PM |
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Just shop at Whole Foods or Trader Joes. There was one night I was in Whole Foods and my head was on a swivel, it was unreal how many (hawt) women were there. Wednesday night salad bar at WF is where all the action is.
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COMMENT 249750P
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2012-01-18 02:45 PM |
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Getting involved with sports,clubs or other activities that interest you is a great gateway to meeting like minded women or making new friends. You might get lucky and meet the love of your life at a bar, it happens, I certainly wouldn't rule it out completely...cheers!
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ROGER DODGER
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2012-01-18 02:49 PM |
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@745 OMD! There's a group for people that wear DEPENDS! ? Where do I sign up?
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COMMENT 249754
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2012-01-18 02:51 PM |
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Define quality.
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COMMENT 249756
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2012-01-18 03:00 PM |
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Find something you love. Find a group that does that something you love. Find someone you love doing that something you love.
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COMMENT 249757
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2012-01-18 03:01 PM |
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excellent call 749. look for WF salad bar to be over run tonight.
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COMMENT 249759
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2012-01-18 03:05 PM |
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If you're a woman looking to meet a woman in your age range try the Carpinteria social scene, it's very progressive and the majority of "quality singles" over 30 are female. If you're man looking to meet a woman then you probs have a date tonight with @749 at the Whole Foods salad bar. That clever girl!!
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COMMENT 249760
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2012-01-18 03:08 PM |
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Take an Adult Ed class, or volunteer for a community/religious/environmental/political/etc. organization where you might meet like-minded people.
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COMMENT 249762
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2012-01-18 03:14 PM |
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Get involved with activities that you like and maybe do some volunteer work also. There are many places , besides bars to meet people, and you are looking for quality. Or take a few interesting classes at SBCC, credit or adult education. That would give you the opportunity to be around like minded people.
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COMMENT 249763
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2012-01-18 03:14 PM |
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Zoto's, tonight, I'll be there.
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COMMENT 249765
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2012-01-18 03:19 PM |
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Well, while we're at it, how about "quality" men in their 60s -- where are they? And I don't mean the ones who are only interested in women in their 30s!
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COMMENT 249767
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2012-01-18 03:27 PM |
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749 is right that is so funny.
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COMMENT 249768
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2012-01-18 03:28 PM |
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I know you said no bars, but go to the Merc Lounge in Goleta. It's not really a "bar bar" if that makes sense. You can meet some nice grad students there. My friend met her last boyfriend there too. Or take a continuing ed class at SBCC or UCSB. There are also some nature hiking groups and others in town if you're into that sort of thing.
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COMMENT 249769
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2012-01-18 03:28 PM |
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@COMMENT 249756---Agreed!
Common interests are where it's at for a long term relationship.
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ROGER DODGER
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2012-01-18 04:41 PM |
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I'd like to find a quality Bag Lady in her 50's...
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COMMENT 249794
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2012-01-18 04:45 PM |
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A lot of old bikers will be a Zodo's tonight too! Actually, the motorcycle group is how I met my husband 6+ years ago - so yea, add my vote to common interests; get out and do group stuff you enjoy - you'll make great fiends and who knows? I also believe in the adage that when you stop looking it happens.
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COMMENT 249828P
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2012-01-18 05:50 PM |
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Bill's bus.
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COMMENT 249833P
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2012-01-18 06:09 PM |
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Very cool, 756. Right on
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COMMENT 249865P
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2012-01-18 07:46 PM |
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It takes a lot of hours in the work day to afford SB. If you have a good job, you cater to it. Then add in the maintenance of house, car, and constantly growing landscape and there's not much time for socializing. Ironically, as a couple, there was time. As a single, not so much.
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COMMENT 249917P
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2012-01-19 07:52 AM |
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Agree with those who say look for an interest, then people who share that interest. Don't go looking for a mate right off the bat; many longterm relationships start with friendships that sort of sneak up on you. Good luck! For myself, met my husband through an ad in a publication I thought someone I'd like would be reading. I did it as a lark but it worked.
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COMMENT 250021
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2012-01-19 10:28 AM |
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hahahahahahahha ~ It's not happy hour, I can do this.
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COMMENT 250057P
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2012-01-19 11:57 AM |
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Even in the 40's-50's age range, dating groups tend to be dominated by SantaBarbie Dolls (with "work done") interviewing men with boats for their financial qualifications. I came to realize that any decent, kind, average-appearing people would give up and go home, and yet those were the people I most wanted to meet. So imagine a city full of nice single people, put off by the hookup scene, sitting home alone. Sad, but true.
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COMMENT 250089
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2012-01-19 01:05 PM |
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I met my partner of 10 yrs through work associations. My daughter met her guy through a dating website. My son met his girl at their SBCC class. Get out there. Keep busy. Accept all invitations. Let everyone know you are looking to be fixed up. GOOD LUCK!!
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MARTINSHAPIRO
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2012-01-19 08:56 PM |
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The author of The Guide to Getting It On says a good way to meet people is to volunteer, help others. It makes you feel good about yourself and others will feel good about you. But don't do it just to get someone. Do it to help others. Work for Habitat for Humanity, Big Brothers/Big Sisters, help a soup kitchen that feeds the homeless, help elect candidates that protect the environment, the list is endless. When you volunteer for a cause you believe in, you'll meet others who share your values. Good luck! Take a Human Sexuality course in college. That will also help.
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COMMENT 250474P
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2012-01-20 08:22 PM |
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Well, I'm a quality woman (I try, anyway) but I'm already married. I met my husband at a wedding, his college friend to my high school friend. (They'd met in AA. After 18 years and two kids, they're now divorced.) I was in grad school in history at the time, my husband owned a small business in Santa Barbara. It was love at first sight. It always seems to me that love happens when you least expect it, the best times in your life (whether you're in love or not) happen when you're doing things you like, and the best relationships happen when you get really, really lucky.
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