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Grief Book Recommendations
updated: Jan 22, 2013, 12:35 PM

A friend tragically lost their brother. Does anyone recommend any books that can help with grief and healing?


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 ROGER DODGER agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 12:42 PM

I can't think of any off hand I just found out that a friend of mine passed away..There's nothing more comforting than a friend.

 

 COMMENT 366165 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 12:53 PM

Not sure of books specifically but Visiting Nurse & Hospice of SB offers free grief counseling and have a pamphlet that lists books on grief.

 

 EDHATBARBARA agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 12:59 PM

Hospice of Santa Barbara's support is fabulous and they have quite an extensive library of grief related books: http://www.hospiceofsantabarbara.org/counseling.php

 

 EDHATBARBARA agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 01:00 PM

More info:
http://www.hospiceofsantabarbara.org/someoneg.php

http://www.caringinfo.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=3367

 

 COMMENT 366185 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 01:52 PM

Tear Soup.

 

 COMMENT 366192 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 02:08 PM

Without knowing exactly what you are looking for, here are some titles:
Surviving Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies:
SURVIVING the DEATH of a SIBLING....by T.J. Wray
The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss...by George A. Bonano
Suicide Survivors' Handbook: A Guide For the Bereaved And Those Who Wish To Help Them...by Trudy Carlson
The Mourning Handbook: The Most Comprehensive Resource Offering Practical and Compassionate Advice on Coping With All Aspects of Death and Dying...by Helen Fitzgerald...Author of the Grieving Child
If I Could Just See Hope...by Darcie D. Sims...(She is the most famous alive who lectures worldwide on Grief and Loss, and is a wonderful person with many books for parents and others).
Almost anything by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (the u has a Nordic accent mark)

 

 COMMENT 366218 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 02:41 PM

Angel Catcher by Kathy Eldon

 

 COMMENT 366223 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 02:53 PM

Having suffered the loss of several family members recently, I can tell you that the free grief counseling services at Hospice are a wonderful source of comfort and direction.

 

 COMMENT 366225 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 02:57 PM

"When Bad Things Happen to Good People" by Harold Kushner is good for esp when you lose someone unexpectedly.

Also, I found this book to be very insightful and comforting: "Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief" by Martha Whitmore Hickman

A note about the Hospice of SB--this is a wonderful organization that offers free individual and group counseling. Your friend might want to check it out to see if she feels this is suitable for her.

 

 COMMENT 366240 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 03:21 PM

We Don't Die, by George Anderson. I read it while on a flight to be with my father when he died. It was transformative.

 

 COMMENT 366258 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 03:52 PM

Counseling. That's what your friend needs. A book is great, but nothing beats talk therapy to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. Anything else is a kind of band aid.

 

 COMMENT 366281P agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 04:24 PM

nothing helps better than the passing of time, unfortunately.

 

 COMMENT 366306P agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 04:49 PM

Mourning Song by Joyce Landorf. Helped me enormously when my mother died. Wonderful book, and I've given it to friends when they've suffered a loss.

 

 COMMENT 366355 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 06:05 PM

Tuesdays with Morrie was given to me when my father was in his final stage of cancer. I continue to read this book as the years have passed.

 

 COMMENT 366375P agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-22 06:37 PM

Just picked up "When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death" at Hospice of SB today. It's a short, kids' book, but the best and most straightforward I've found so far. I appreciate the chapters: Feelings about Death, Among Friends, and Saying Goodbye. http://www.amazon.com/When-Dinosaurs-Die-Understanding-Families/dp/0316119555/ref=sr_1_1?
ie=UTF8&qid=1358908232&sr=8-1&keywords=when+dinosaurs+die

 

 COMMENT 366482 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 07:18 AM

~ "Death Be Not Proud: a Memoir" by John Gunther
~ "When Bad Things Happen to Good People" by Harold Kushner
~ "Proof of Heaven" by Eben Alexander, M.D.
Finally, reaching out for support, e.g. the groups at Hospice of Santa Barbara, can connect us with others who are also grieving the loss of someone close to us.

 

 K9CRAZY agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 07:55 AM

RECOVERING FROM THE LOSSES OF LIFE by Norm Wright. Was very helpful for me after I lost a good friend.

 

 SEEDLADY agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 07:58 AM

'How To Survive The Loss of a Love' by Peter McMillan. reviews below:

http://www.amazon.com/Survive-Loss-Love-Peter-McWilliams/dp/0931580439

Agree that grief groups help; by vocalizing your fears and anxieties you find they are common to us all. You feel much less isolated, and can get some good tips for coping and moving forward when you feel the time is right.

Friends can help by listening, too. You don't have to say much, just listen. Sometimes a griever needs to repeatedly vocalize. They are not looking for answers, just friendly companionship without judging.

***please and thank you, can edhat "fix" the problem with the justifying text??? it's driving me batty.

 

 SEEDLADY agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 07:59 AM

((((Roger))))

 

 COACH F agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 08:22 AM

In the past few years I suffered the suicide of 2 close friends and found the Hospice of Santa Barbara to be a tremendous (and life-saving) resource. 805.563.8820 They can provide grief conselling and have lending library. I'd recommend contacting them ASAP.

 

 COMMENT 366511 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 08:39 AM

No books can help... only time...
nice gesture though.

 

 COMMENT 366560P agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 10:39 AM

The Bible, particularly the psalms.

 

 SBASALL agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 11:27 AM

Who Dies, by Steve Levine. Also Elisabeth Kubler Ross, On Death and Dying (a classic)

 

 COMMENT 366574 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 11:51 AM

A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis; The Year of Magical Thinking, Joan Didion

 

 COMMENT 366575 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 11:56 AM

The Grief Recovery Handbook by James & Friedman was amazingly helpful to me when I lost my best friend and roommate suddenly in an accident. She was like a sister to me and I was devastated. My mom handed the book to me one day (I was too depressed to research grief books on my own), and it made a big difference.

 

 COMMENT 366800P agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-23 10:35 PM

Hospice of Santa Barbara. Please note there are two Hospice organizations in the community. One is associated with the visiting nurses . I do not know about whether the other is or not. Everything they do is with class and after losing a loved one I can honestly say they made my burden very light or as light as it could be under the circumstances.

 

 COMMENT 367586 agree helpful negative off topic

2013-01-26 12:02 AM

I lost several family members a few years ago and someone pointed me toward the Grief Recovery Workshop at El Montecito Presbyterian Church. It worked me through my more recent losses and also healed old grief I had not really moved through effectively either. They had some really insightful speakers and a wonderful group of women leading small groups that had experienced losses themselves. The small groups were relative to the type of loss - people who lost a spouse, people who lost a child, people who lost a sibling, or a friend, people with multiple losses... I worried that I would simply be overrun with the grief of the others, but every one of the eight Monday evenings were a new level of emotional catharsis that actually helped me walk more solidly through the rest of my week. They only have a session in the Fall, but if you call the church - 969-5041 - they can put you in touch with the women who lead it. They actually recommend that you attend a certain amount of time after the initial loss. And yes, there were people there with a variety of religious opinions and everyone was completely respectful. No arm twisting issues. Good luck.

 

 

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