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Pearls of Wisdom
updated: Jan 02, 2013, 7:37 PM

By Edhat Subscriber

I'm sincerely seeking thoughts, sayings to remember in life's journey. I'm inquisitive, an introvert, and when I meet Santa Barbarans in daily encounters, I'm too timid to ask what advice is important to be mindful of. What might Edhat readers share with us to have a better new year?

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SHOREBIRD	2013-01-02 07:47 PM
No matter where you go, there you are. Hormones are not always your friend.
COMMENT 359470	2013-01-02 07:52 PM
When you ask a child to stop doing something, you have to expect they'll do it one more time. That goes hand and hand with - Pick your battles wisely.
COMMENT 359471	2013-01-02 07:56 PM
I am not who I think I am and I am not who you think I am. I am who I think you think I am.
COMMENT 359473P	2013-01-02 08:01 PM
Every moment in time you have a choice of focus. -- Marilyn Grosboll
COMMENT 359475P	2013-01-02 08:02 PM
Why not, what's it hurt? In honor of my father, it was one of his favorite sayings once he found out that he was terminally ill, today would have been his 64th birthday. Cheers!
TWO ABBYS	2013-01-02 08:03 PM
The world is so full of all manner of things I'm sure we should all be as happy as kings. (R.L. Stevenson) I hope to be as good a person as my five year old thinks I am.
JAZZEE	2013-01-02 08:07 PM
Be here now.
COMMENT 359478	2013-01-02 08:07 PM
Be kind and love others.
COMMENT 359480P	2013-01-02 08:09 PM
Stan Rowett, formerly a counselor in Santa Barbara, taught me to ask myself: 1. What's the worst that could happen? 2. Will it make a difference in two years? Thanks Stan for this litmus test for situations.
JOJOFLYS	2013-01-02 08:12 PM
Heard this one recently. Was given as a response by a 100-year-old woman when she was asked her secret to a long life. "Eat well and mind your own business."
SEEDLADY	2013-01-02 08:29 PM
Don't count your chickens before they're hatched. Allow an extra 15 minutes to get anywhere in town, out of town an extra hour. Gas up, go to the bank and pack the night before a driving trip. Never go to bed angry (about anything).
COMMENT 359489P	2013-01-02 08:36 PM
JAZZEE, oh-boy, I can't wait to be here now.
COMMENT 359490	2013-01-02 08:37 PM
"beings of light are we. not this crude matter." -yoda
COMMENT 359491	2013-01-02 08:37 PM
If something is worth doing, it's worth overdoing.
COMMENT 359497	2013-01-02 08:48 PM
If life gives you lemons, make lemonade. If life gives you melons, you may be dyslexic. Knowledge is what you know. Wisdom is what you do with what you know. Save the Earth! It's the only planet with chocolate. Stay calm. Pobody's nerfect.
COMMENT 359501	2013-01-02 08:59 PM
"Buy your straw hats in the winter time" Bernard Baruch
COMMENT 359502P	2013-01-02 09:00 PM
Enjoy the journey as much as the destination.
NATURE BOY	2013-01-02 09:09 PM
One learns survival by surviving.
COMMENT 359507P	2013-01-02 09:13 PM
The secret of my long life - red meat and gin: Julia Child
COMMENT 359508P	2013-01-02 09:14 PM
"The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt." Bertrand Russell
NATURE BOY	2013-01-02 09:16 PM
When packing for a long journey: Put everything you need to take with you into a pile. Then take out half of that, and take twice as much money. Trust me.
COMMENT 359511P	2013-01-02 09:23 PM
What would you do if you knew you could not fail.
COMMENT 359512P	2013-01-02 09:24 PM
~ When feeling afraid, ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that could happen?" ~ When someone does something that angers you, rather than criticizing harshly or attacking, try calmly saying "Does it feel right to you to ....." It can work wonders. ~ Without forgiveness, there can never be inner peace in one's life. (Inner forgiveness is different than outer forgiveness. Inner forgiveness is for all so you can have peace in life and not be filled with resentment. Outer forgiveness is on a case by case basis depending on the situation. Inner forgiveness has to do with our internal state. Outer forgiveness has to do with what we do outwardly, such as remedial measures or justice.) ~ Whatever you want in life, Give. If you want love, give love. If you want happiness, give cheerfulness and joy to others. If you want knowledge, teach. If you interview older people whom are filled with profound amounts of love or happiness or knowledge, they also gave that same thing to others for many years. Try even one of the above things and you will not only have a better year, but a better life.
COMMENT 359516P	2013-01-02 09:30 PM
Three quotes that have stayed with me for many, many years: "Having heard all of this, you may choose to look the other way . . .But you can never say again that you did not know." ---William Wilberforce And, from a short story titled "Dog Years" by Tom Junod: "The love of an animal, however, always drags behind it the anchor of mortality." And, as my dear mother, who passed away seven years ago, at age 93, was so fond of saying: "You only go through this life once. You may as well enjoy it."
AQUAHOLIC	2013-01-02 09:39 PM
Never eat anything bigger than your head.
LIZBETH	2013-01-02 09:44 PM
When someone shows you who he really is, believe him.
COMMENT 359521P	2013-01-02 09:56 PM
There is no there there. -Gertrude Stein
COMMENT 359522P	2013-01-02 10:00 PM
Shorebird, your 2nd one is most certainly true after age 50 (I'm 51). In fact, I think they should be approached only with extreme caution and an iron clad escape plan!
MOMMAME	2013-01-02 10:18 PM
The best thing my Mother ever taught me was "if you want something done right, do it yourself". (and I do) The best thing my Father taught me was "don't go looking for a man, let one find you" (and I did)
COMMENT 359530P	2013-01-02 11:44 PM
This is a very small town. Do your best to always be kind, courteous and fair to everyone you meet because you never know when, where or why you might have another encounter and it will be damn embarrassing if you've been mean, rude or unfair - especially if they wind up being your potential boss, landlord, in-law, friend of a friend, lawyer, kid's teacher, barista...the list goes on and on. As my mother always said, there's no substitution for courtesy
COMMENT 359531	2013-01-03 06:55 AM
If u don't have anything ice to say, don't say anything at all. Seems to be particularly apt here...
COMMENT 359532	2013-01-03 06:58 AM
The secret to life is enjoying the passing of time.
COMMENT 359542	2013-01-03 07:14 AM
From my Dad: Start saving for retirement with your first job post college.
CAT2FAT2	2013-01-03 07:18 AM
We are all control freaks given the opportunity. Everyone is the hero in his own story - listen critically.
COMMENT 359546P	2013-01-03 07:21 AM
Pay attention. And treat others as you would like to be treated.
REXOFSB	2013-01-03 07:21 AM
ME FIRST! If you're good to yourself you're good to the world. --Malcolm Dewey.
COMMENT 359554	2013-01-03 07:37 AM
Avoid contact with the ocean within 72 hours of significant rain. Hike smart. Keep your dog leashed at Kirk and Mikes park. Avoid the bird refuge in late summer. Feed the butterflies. Be grateful and compassionate. More wag, less bark. Live laugh love
COMMENT 359556	2013-01-03 07:40 AM
If you always do what you always did, you always get what you always got.
COMMENT 359557	2013-01-03 07:40 AM
Love your neighbor as you would yourself - Eternal Life
REXOFSB	2013-01-03 07:43 AM
Never hold a grudge, just get even. For through revenge we learn to forgive.
LOTUSEATER	2013-01-03 07:45 AM
"If you don't know history, then you don't know anything. You are a leaf that doesn't know it is part of a tree" ~Michael Crichton "Never worry when everyone disagrees and argues about what should be done. When everyone agrees on something....run like hell" ~My Father (Russian immigrant and Holocaust survivor)
COMMENT 359563	2013-01-03 07:52 AM
From my stepdad while growing up: "Have fun, but be good." When I moved to SB for college it was adjusted: "Have fun, be good, and don't do anything stupid!"
COMMENT 359565	2013-01-03 08:04 AM
Never go anywhere for the first time. We're all about 4 meals away from homicide.
ZEUSTHEGOOSE	2013-01-03 08:08 AM
it's not worth doing if you don't do it right. the only thing that cannot be taken from you is an education.
COMMENT 359569	2013-01-03 08:09 AM
From my dad: "The sign of a good driver is how comfortable your passengers feel."
COMMENT 359577	2013-01-03 08:22 AM
The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the manner in which its animals are treated. Mahatma Gandhi
ARCHIE	2013-01-03 08:24 AM
Give to others that which you want for yourself.
COMMENT 359583	2013-01-03 08:43 AM
"Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you."
COMMENT 359584	2013-01-03 08:43 AM
no expectations, no frustrations
RDH	2013-01-03 08:47 AM
Never ask advice from others who may be more confused than you.
COMMENT 359589	2013-01-03 08:53 AM
A pearl from dear ol' Dad: "Stand close, son, or you'll ruin your shoes."
SBSURFERLIFE	2013-01-03 08:53 AM
My grandmother would always say: "You can't buy class." "Walk into a room like you own it." "He's so smart he's stupid."
FLICKA	2013-01-03 08:55 AM
"Everything will be fine in the end. If it's not fine, it's not the end." This line was in "The Exotic Marigold Hotel" movie and has become my favoite!
LONESTARCA	2013-01-03 08:59 AM
Perfect is never necessary when it comes to housework. There's always another chance. If you don't know why you are doing something, don't do it. Be careful what you wish for, you might get it. From Peanuts: The secret to life -- just hang around till you get used to it.
COMMENT 359601P	2013-01-03 09:12 AM
The Four Agreements BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circum-stances, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
FLICKA	2013-01-03 09:22 AM
Roger does make funny comments, I get a kick out of them. Keep up the good work, Roger!
COMMENT 359610	2013-01-03 09:23 AM
Treat others as you want to be treated ... because you will: what goes around comes around. And my favourite is: keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting what you're getting. Change is inevitable but growth is not.
COMMENT 359614	2013-01-03 09:27 AM
Help Ever ~ Hurt Never
COMMENT 359618	2013-01-03 09:31 AM
My favorite joke I heard recently - when you break up with a guy, if there's no order of protection, you never really loved each other.
COMMENT 359619	2013-01-03 09:31 AM
Look in the mirror - that's who's going to save you.
LOUWHO?	2013-01-03 09:38 AM
My mom always said, "If you are waiting on a man to do something you are gonna be waiting a long time. Learn how to do it yourself and get it done." ... Miss you Mommy!!
COMMENT 359623	2013-01-03 09:43 AM
Whenever you need a hand, remember there is one at the end of your arm. Marriage is like a Looooong Banquet . . . with the dessert served first.
RICHBUSYWOMAN	2013-01-03 09:52 AM
The only constant is change. So ... when you are hurting and in despair, know that things will get better. And when you are happy and everything is perfect, appreciate it, for that pendulum too will soon swing.
COMMENT 359637	2013-01-03 10:06 AM
2 of my favorites The more things change, the more they stay INSANE! (B. Kliban) and The only normal people are the ones you don't know very well (Joe Ancis)
AQUAHOLIC	2013-01-03 10:19 AM
From my Grandmother who lived to be 99... "You have to eat a peck of dirt before you die" (she grew up on a farm in Iowa!)
LILAC	2013-01-03 10:25 AM
This is what 90 years of living has taught me: The only thing I can be absolutely sure of, is that there is nothing I can be absolutely sure of.
COMMENT 359645	2013-01-03 10:31 AM
Carpe Diem.......Seize the Day...super important I think
COMMENT 359650	2013-01-03 10:49 AM
Experience is something you get right after you need it.
COMMENT 359661	2013-01-03 11:10 AM
What you think about me is none of my business.
COMMENT 359665	2013-01-03 11:16 AM
It is what it is. Of the N gods prayed to in this world, a minimum of N-1 do not exist. Smells like cologne, leave it alone. Smells like a fish, it's a tasty dish.
COMMENT 359675	2013-01-03 11:35 AM
"You gotta wade through miles of shit just to get to Paradise." Geronimo Black "I don't know where I am, I just know that I'm here."
COMMENT 359679	2013-01-03 11:49 AM
Suffering is an option. Choose peace over suffering.
COMMENT 359714	2013-01-03 12:43 PM
If it's not easy, you're doing it wrong.
PJG	2013-01-03 12:47 PM
Ancient Chinese Proverb Three gatekeepers are commanded to halt and ask a question of every word that passes through your mouth If the word cannot answer "yes" to each question It cannot proceed. The first gatekeeper will ask, "Is it true?" The second gatekeeper will ask, "Is it kind?" The third gatekeeper will ask, "Is it necessary?"
COMMENT 359745	2013-01-03 01:33 PM
"If you are not the lead dog, the scenery never changes..."
COMMENT 359764	2013-01-03 02:12 PM
Find something you're passionate about and keep tremendously interested in it - Julia Child
MACSCIDOR	2013-01-03 02:28 PM
"Time is the most valuable coin in your life You and you alone will determine how that coin will be spent. Be careful that you do not let other people spend it for you." [Carl Sandburg]
COMMENT 359775	2013-01-03 02:34 PM
I'll leave you with my father's favorite line at the dinner table... "Shaddup and stuff yer gut!"
COMMENT 359837P	2013-01-03 04:29 PM
"God must love a$$holes because he made so many."
COMMENT 359840P	2013-01-03 04:33 PM
"A pat on the back is 12 inches away from a kick in the ass." - Boss from my first job when I was 15.
DRBUD	2013-01-03 04:55 PM
Common Sense is anything but common!!
COMMENT 359941	2013-01-03 08:42 PM
Manners maketh man (said in the 14th century by William of Wykeham)
COMMENT 359955P	2013-01-03 10:26 PM
Here are several that I have found along life's highway The definition of crazy I like is "Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" Treat others the way you would like them to become and not the way you think they are. Think of shyness as a form of selfishness. Most shy people I know are more concerned about what you think of them than what they should be thinking of you. "Try never to let Reality spoil your day." Look upon reality as a crossroad. One path will lead you to self pity and asking the question 'Why Me" the other path will lead you to the reality that life sometimes sucks and why not you. If you are enjoying self-pity you are digging a hole you will never be able to climb out. The platinum rule which reads "Treat others the way they would like to be treated and not the way you would like to be treated I have found to be a much better rule to follow. I have discovered in life that many acquaintances of mine do not want to be treated the way I like to be treated. I have many more but why bore you
COMMENT 359988	2013-01-04 08:17 AM
"Don't squat with your spurs on" "If you work for free, you'll always have a job."
COMMENT 360191P	2013-01-04 02:30 PM
Dress the way you want to be treated.

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