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Mr. Three Piece

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SHOREBIRD	2011-04-02 10:37 AM
There is absolutely NO reason for her ire (that you would understand.) How likely are you to do it again?
COMMENT 160488	2011-04-02 11:33 AM
Mr. Three Piece, You weren't entirely in the wrong however I can understand your wife being irritated. Between couples the biggest problems are always communication; men usually don't communicate enough and woman sometimes communicate too much (men's opinion). So the underlying issue may have been that, yes, she was was under-dressed but also she was uninformed about the additions to your dinner. You could have told her by the way some co-workers will be joining us when you were telling her which restaurant to meet you at. Obviously this will be a mistake you won't make again, but you just need to know what not to do right? The details that are usually insignificant to you are probably important information to your wife. So try to remember to mention the details or little things and you won't have very many spats. Good Luck! And I like Habit too!
AQUAHOLIC	2011-04-02 11:47 AM
I don't blame her, I prefer The Habit too.
COMMENT 160497	2011-04-02 12:03 PM
Right off the bat you use the 'P' vulgarism. Moving on, I can't see why you're still married. Your wife should have gone, if she hasn't already, to a consult with a divorce attorney. Sounds like all you bring to the table is yourself.
COMMENT 160507	2011-04-02 12:31 PM
The OP appears to be an insensitive ahole. I would never do that to my wife.
COMMENT 160509	2011-04-02 12:42 PM
You should have asked your wife when others started adding themselves to the party. She expected quiet, casual time with you and got an office party. Likely she wasn't up to having a social event or perhaps doesn't love hanging with your co-workers. My husband would rather have all his teeth pulled than hang out with some of the the people I've worked with. In any case, I'd be annoyed too. However, she overreacted. Sometimes, the best thing to do is roll with the situation and have a word with you later. Unless you are a repeat offender and missed the memo when she told you about this behavior in the past. In that case, I would have headed to The Habit too. Apologize and next time call her before bringing others along.
COMMENT 160510	2011-04-02 12:42 PM
You got chinese and she got a burger and fries that were cold by the time she got home?! I'd be pissed, too!
COMMENT 160512	2011-04-02 12:46 PM
Your wife wants a casual dinner and you think it is fine to include your friends from work without letting her know? You should have told her that work friends were joining you. (I also don't agree with the person who decides to invite himself to dinner with you and your wife).
COMMENT 160523	2011-04-02 01:43 PM
I totally am on board with the divorce idea! Geez! its just dinner and its not the end of the world. Being single would let you out of all the temper tantrums and pouting....or did you sign up for that?
COMMENT 160525P	2011-04-02 01:47 PM
@509, exactly! I could not have said it better myself! I would have been seriously annoyed. I do not always feel like socializing either. I would not have left, but would have told him a thing or two when we got home. He should have known her well enough to think of that.
COMMENT 160535	2011-04-02 02:49 PM
Wow! If my wife invited me out to dinner and then when I showed up, it turned out not to be dinner with my wife but just an extension of my day with people from the office, I would not be happy. How hard is it for a mature person to simply say, "no, not tonight," or "I don't eat out with my wife much so how about we all get together another time." Sorry, the poster seems like a self centered person. Most people spend more time with their colleagues than their spouse. This is now way to treat your spouse and especially when it they that generally does all the cooking. This isn't a gender thing - it about respect for your mate.
COMMENT 160556P	2011-04-02 05:43 PM
yes you should have informed her ~ it is just the polite thing to do esp with your wife!!! My girlfriends even tell me when someone else is joining us! Just reverse the circumstances....done deal.
COMMENT 160560	2011-04-02 06:10 PM
i think your an A hole....she cooks all the time and you wanted to do something nice with her and go out to dinner....why would you invite your co workers...dont you see them enough. why would you not inform your wife of this...sounds like you need your out of touch a little if you wouldnt inform your wife that your inviting your co workers
COMMENT 160564	2011-04-02 06:51 PM
The big deal is a colleague with bad manners, (inviting himself) you for inviting the colleague and others along, forgetting to mention these "minor" details, and last but not least ruining your wife's casual night out ,WITH JUST THE TWO OF YOU!
COMMENT 160566	2011-04-02 07:00 PM
Well a simple lack of good judgment, and comunication, seems there are a lot of touchy people now days, No reson for divorce,Or being hostile over this for one more second.. Say your sorry, Mean it and try to be a better partner, Heck maybe you could cook once in a while if you have the talent.
FLICKA	2011-04-03 09:23 AM
Santa Barbara is a "casual dress" place, unless going to a formal shendig; the work guys in suits at a Chinese resturant would look out of place to me. Instead of feeling humliated for her clothing, she humiliated herself by her behavior and no doubt embarrassed her husband to boot! Jeans and a shirt will be O.K anywhere except maybe the Biltmore or San Ysidro Ranch. Grow a little self-esteem and realize you're fine whatever you wear.
COMMENT 160637	2011-04-03 09:50 AM
I'm with the wife. Sorry. The OP seems insensitive and thoughtless. Apologize to her. Flowers are a wonderful way to do that. Mean it & plan to take her to a nice dinner just the two of you. This is about respect to your mate.
COMMENT 160535	2011-04-03 11:34 AM
Come on now...it is way deeper than the clothing. It is about respect. Regardless of the clothing, the wife was not even included in the decision to bring others to their dinner. The wife did NOT humiliate herself but it seems pretty clear to me that she probably has to act this way in order to get Mr. self centered to listen or pay attention. The husband needs to be embarrassed...
SEEDLADY	2011-04-03 01:22 PM
WHO invites themselves along on someone else's dinner outing?? The OP should've told them NO, told his wife to put on her pearls, & surprised her with a sunset dinner & champagne, and thanked her for the opportunity to let her know how much her hard work in the kitchen every night means to him. Flowers? not so much. Guys think flowers "buy" them out of the doghouse. Flowers for NO special reason, now, THAT'S sincerity.
COMMENT 160860	2011-04-04 09:29 AM
I am loving all of these comments! I definitely think you should have told her and because you were doing something nice for her for the cooking, I would say no to your colleagues. If were some other situation, I would still call her and ask her before inviting. I agree as well that it's rude your co-worker invited himself, but you can't control that. The only thing you can control is yourself so take control of the situation at hand, apologize to her for being rude and not thoughtful, and take her out to a nice dinner to make up for it. However, if this a repeat offense (as someone else has already suggested) you should perhaps seek counseling because this is only going to get worse. Good luck!
COMMENT 175135P	2011-05-19 07:40 PM
I agree, this is a very egocentric male. Could care less of his wife's feelings, as far as her attire, that depends on her and her propriety to dress at which occasion. It's her personality, and if the husband does not know this by now. He's no good. Of course she was insulted and humiliated, he did not mention how many years they have been married, but I sure would consider the big D should he continue his behavior. It is obvious she would of like to have some quiet time, and not have the onturrage come along. No, flowers won't do it - only your actions in the future, if you want to save your marriage. You are a very rude man and very inconsiderate to your wife. I wish your wife the best. And I wish for you to grow up and stop playing with the boys now. Your a married man, act like one.

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