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COMMENT 113592P	2010-10-16 10:17 AM
Don't you hate it when being 'regular' now means you're the dirty one? She needs a new hobby. And maybe... just maybe you shouldn't complain. Just find something that means more to you -- something that she wouldn't consider doing, like taking out the trash, and changing the oil in the car.
COMMENT 113601P	2010-10-16 11:17 AM
Maybe he just thinks he "regular", and really he's a slob. Does anyone change the oil anymore?
ROGER DODGER	2010-10-16 11:30 AM
I'm regular too.
SHOREBIRD	2010-10-16 11:56 AM
Delta is the name of a College Sorority. Are you leaving your bras and pantyhose all over the place and is the floor sticky with dried beer and monthly tears?
COMMENT 113610	2010-10-16 11:57 AM
Run for the hill 'regular' guy!!! You will only learn to dislike one another. She will never be happy. Compulsive behavior is a strong indicator of something deep that's bothering her. Or you may offer to have the place cleaned by professionals.
COMMENT 113615	2010-10-16 12:22 PM
If memory serves, Delta House was the name of the sloppy frat house in the movie Animal House...not a complimentary comparison. Here's a dirty little guarded secret that most women would never admit-to, but believe me it's true: many women, but not all, will push and push for what they want, but if you give-in too much they won't respect you for it. It's one of the many "special" things about women. You do owe a certain amount of fair-play when it comes to chores though, so maybe strike a bargain somewhere in the middle and share what needs to be done around the house. But never, and I mean never ever never, let any woman get the upper hand and start treating you like a mother. Never.
COMMENT 113619	2010-10-16 12:48 PM
@113615 - you must be single with that neanderthal, sexist attitude. "never ever never, let any woman get the upper hand...?", advising that women don't respect men when they give them what they want? Was that advise straight out of a 1940's men's magazine? How about, be grateful that she's willing to do the cleaning (even if she does get upset about doing it all the time), try a bit harder to compromise because I'm fairly sure that there are things about you that SHE gets annoyed by and for goodness sake, don't consider anything that 113615 said. That is, unless you are aching for the single life.
COMMENT 113623P	2010-10-16 01:02 PM
He says "...since I don’t care about whether the house is clean or not...." Maybe she should just stop cleaning. And when he decides the place is too dirty, they can begin discussing how to share the chores.
COMMENT 113645	2010-10-16 02:45 PM
Well........maybe she just feels like you dont do anything.You have to Ask yourself What do you do for her if she cleans up after you??Wash her car?do some laundry?cook for her and clean the dish's,how about doing the shopping.........Qnything other than just watch her work? Well.I respect that she likes to keep her house clean....Why dont you? Get a clue or get out before you and her cant get along anymore......I am sure thats where its going.Good Luck
COMMENT 113647	2010-10-16 02:57 PM
You know rumor has it that guys that help around the house get a little more attention in the bedroom. Doing a few dishes and picking up your socks could go along way.
COMMENT 113648	2010-10-16 03:04 PM
Congrats. Both of you are dolts when it comes to choosing housemates. Get out before you realize what a fool you are. Very pathetic to admit that you consider yourself regular. Oh, and you missed a spot. She's probably timing you too. Why? Because she can. You picked her as she picked you. Oh happy day.
COMMENT 113654	2010-10-16 03:32 PM
Delta House was an Animal House. But it was also full of regular guys. Let me quote another movie, "Monty Python and the Holy Grail." RUN AWAY!!!! And 647, that is a rumor.
COMMENT 113659P	2010-10-16 04:11 PM
Dan 647 IS NOT A RUMOR! You must be single, messy and lonely. As far as this guy goes if he doesn't want to help clean they can alternate weekends and when it is his turn he can hire a housecleaner.
COMMENT 113662	2010-10-16 04:17 PM
659P, easy there, please drop the caps and the P. At least I say who I am. I am single, and I have many friends that are in relationships that tell me I'm living the right way.
ROGER DODGER	2010-10-16 05:37 PM
I am single, messy, and lonley wow! is this an offer for a realionship, or a house cleaning? I'll take both and while your at it you can clip my potaTOE nails. :) I was a janitor off and on for 20 years. I was real good at it there is a skill to it. Despite my looks I had a couple "Hottie's" in my time. It's been along time for me I'm kinda set in my old ways. Like Dan I prefer talking to my cat. They offer unconditional love, and don't talk back. At least not in a languge I can understand. Delta house was heaven and if I would have made it to college I would have lived there. I could tell you I was in R.O.T.C. and it sucked.
COMMENT 113615	2010-10-16 06:28 PM
113619 from 113615: I bet you're a woman, right? Like I said, many but not all women...if you're not like that then good for you and the men in your life. I admit that my comment was very blunt, but I know what I'm talking about and I'm quite the opposite of a neanderthal. In fact I'm a woman and I know what I'm talking about. You jumped to some unwarranted and untrue conclusions about me, so maybe I hit a touchy spot with some uncomfortable truth. Many women can't seem to help themselves when it comes to wanting their man to change for them and take advantage of givers, and it gives the rest of us a bad name.
COMMENT 113694	2010-10-17 03:10 AM
My husband and I worked it out by doing what 659P suggests---We alternate weeks and he hires a housecleaner. I'm no neat freak, either, just "regular," too. It has truly relieved stress in our marriage, and another result is that I make more of an effort helping in other ways. "Regular Guy" needs to find some way to make a contribution to their co-existence. And I wonder. . . Is their conflict all about housecleaning?
COMMENT 113615	2010-10-17 06:36 AM
Message to everyone from 113674 (also 113615): I was way-off in what I had to say earlier, and it was more about my own experience and attitude. Sorry. What I really should have said is that some people are takers and others are givers, and it's best to stay away from takers if you're a giver. There's nothing in what the guy who posted this question said that suggests his girlfriend is a taker, or that he is a giver, and I apologize for my ranting. My best advice to both of them is to choose wisely when you live with someone, and if you can't strike a balance and both be givers, then it's probably best to move-on and stop blaming each other.
COMMENT 113705	2010-10-17 08:11 AM
Sounds like a "Jiffy Lube & Molly Maid" solution is in order for a lasting relationship. Then the pressure is off to discuss the other issues.
COMMENT 113709P	2010-10-17 08:40 AM
113674 Hi Dr. Laura. What's the "opposite of a Neanderthal?"
COMMENT 113710	2010-10-17 08:41 AM
Hard to say what the problem is. Some women are finantics about cleaning, to the point of making people uncomfortable. "Regular guy" might mean a slob or just not interested in having a place "hospital" sterile. Luckily for me, husband of 40 years and I have the same idea of what "clean" means and our love for each other rules the day.
COMMENT 113731P	2010-10-17 10:51 AM
Yes, people still change oil. My hubs did all the maintenance on our 2 drivers, the work truck, and his Falcons. Rotated tires, r&r brakes, fluids, belts, batteries, did tune-ups, etc. He had to justify the tool collection SOMEhow! He did most of the outside weekly maintenance, I did the inside. I always thought I had the lion's share of work shopping, cooking, cleaning, household decor and upkeep, till he passed away. Now I realize how much time he put into our place. He loved it though--"take care of your_____ and it will take care of you"--was his motto. What a guy.
COMMENT 113615	2010-10-17 11:25 AM
113674: The opposite of a Neanderthal in my book is someone who loves women as a verb and is very giving...what's your's?
COMMENT 113615	2010-10-17 12:07 PM
113674: Pee-Wee Herman...
COMMENT 114000	2010-10-18 12:15 PM
Hey, as a woman, I would not spend half a weekend day cleaning my place. I have plenty other things to do . . . Live neat, clean up after self as go along, less cleaning to do. And hire someone if it is that much of a tension creator in the relationship.

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